The Difficult Embrace of Constructive Criticism

My View

I struggle to accept constructive criticism. No matter how hard I try, the moment I receive suggestions for improvement I get defensive.

Two summers ago, I asked our school district’s leadership team for feedback on an extensive project. Although I encouraged their comments, I didn’t think anyone would respond so I was surprised when two instructional coaches accepted my offer.

When we met, the employees provided several suggestions for improvement. On the outside, I nodded my head and smiled. But on the inside, I told myself, “Do they realize how much time I put into this project? If you think you can do better ... go ahead!”

As we finished I (reluctantly) told the coaches I appreciated their feedback. When they left, my feelings were hurt. Despite my efforts, they essentially indicated the entire document needed revision.

I felt like a failure.